The Art of Letting Go: Spiritual Lessons from Emptying My Voicemail

It’s been over a year since my husband died, and I finally came to a place where I could listen to the voicemails left on my cell phone during the first few days. My inbox was full and no one could leave a message, but I’ve been avoiding listening to the voicemails. I haven’t had the strength to do it. It was just too painful. “You have 38 messages.” Although I’ve been navigating my new … [Read more...]

Widowed: Reflections on the First Year

When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple whom he loved standing beside her, he said to his mother, ‘Woman, here is your son.’ Then he said to the disciple, ‘Here is your mother.’ And from that hour the disciple took her into his own home” (John 19:26–27 NRSV). The first anniversary of my husband’s death is swiftly approaching, and once again, I am in shock. However, this time I’m shocked … [Read more...]

Death of Your Dreams

“All his sons and all his daughters sought to comfort him; but he refused to be comforted, and said, ‘No, I shall go down to Sheol to my son, mourning.’ Thus his father bewailed him” (Genesis 37:35 NRSV). I have learned that there are many phases of grief. Many of you are familiar with the traditional stages—shock, bargaining, denial, and acceptance to name a few. But, I’ve discovered another … [Read more...]