Hope for the Holidays

“To provide for those who mourn in Zion—to give them a garland instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, the mantle of praise instead of a faint spirit. They will be called oaks of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, to display his glory” Isaiah 61:3 (NRSV). In the last couple of weeks, I’ve emailed back-and-forth with a woman referred to me from the SUDEP Institute … [Read more...]

Widowed: Reflections on the First Year

When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple whom he loved standing beside her, he said to his mother, ‘Woman, here is your son.’ Then he said to the disciple, ‘Here is your mother.’ And from that hour the disciple took her into his own home” (John 19:26–27 NRSV). The first anniversary of my husband’s death is swiftly approaching, and once again, I am in shock. However, this time I’m shocked … [Read more...]

Death of Your Dreams

“All his sons and all his daughters sought to comfort him; but he refused to be comforted, and said, ‘No, I shall go down to Sheol to my son, mourning.’ Thus his father bewailed him” (Genesis 37:35 NRSV). I have learned that there are many phases of grief. Many of you are familiar with the traditional stages—shock, bargaining, denial, and acceptance to name a few. But, I’ve discovered another … [Read more...]