25 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Got Married

I don’t think anything can prepare you for marriage. Yes, you receive advice from married couples in your life and you go through marriage counseling for several months, but nothing really prepares you to join with and become one with a person for what you think will be the rest of your life. As I reflect on my marriage to my late husband, I have regrets. I was naïve about many things. I wish … [Read more...]

Sheep Amidst Wolves: Maintaining Gentleness

Confession time. I have to work really hard at being gentle. It’s the truth. Many people from my former church and many people I’ve known over the years describe me as having a “sweet spirit,” and I believe I am a sweet person. But, do I think of myself as gentle? No. Gentleness is something I have to work at. One of the main areas that reflect my lack of gentleness is my speech. I’ve said this … [Read more...]

The Pursuit of Happiness

“Do you want to be happy?” This is the question the young minister I’ve been seeing recently asked me. “Do you want to be happy?” We’ve been spending a lot of time getting to know one another, and all of the issues of my heart have been bubbling to the surface for him to see. Much of it deals with the guilt I feel because of how my husband died. I didn’t have the chance to say goodbye and tell … [Read more...]